Wednesday, April 15, 2009

There's Always Room for One More

So I'm pregnant. Fifteen weeks already. Here's the story: When Lacey was born I was pretty sure that we were done. Three seemed like a good number for us. I told people that I was 90% sure that we were done, but I was leaving 10% open in case something dramatic happened. . ."But I'm sure that won't happen" Well about the time that Lacey turned one, some things started to happen. All three kids would be in the living room and I would think that there was someone sleeping in the bedroom. Or I would get them all in the car and think that I had to go back in for the last one. Hmmm. Then I would think of all the reasons that I shouldn't have another baby. 1.The shots. I have to take blood thinners while I am pregnant which means I have to inject Lovenox into my belly every day until 34 weeks after which it is two Heparin shots a day. Ouch! 2. I'm getting up there in years and so is my husband. Risks of genetic diseases increase after the age of 35. And Alex is already 42 he will be 60 by the time the baby graduates from high school. 3. Alex works long hours and so I don't get much help at home. As I pondered those things, these answers came to me: 1. I may have to take shots but at least I'm not debilitatingly ill like some ladies. I tolerate pregnancy pretty well. 2. I am inspired by several friends who have had a fourth baby after the age of 35. And as far as genetics go, my mother had two healthy children after the age of 35 and my grandmother and great-grandmother both had healthy children in their 40's. 3. As I was thinking about how I don't get much help a voice said to me,"I will help you." So with those concerns resolved, my next concern was how to convince my husband. One day we were on a trip and I was thinking, 'Okay, I'm ready, but what about Alex?" Two minutes later Alex said, "Brent (his friend and fellow Discount Tire manager) said having a fourth baby was the best thing they ever did." After a few more discussion he finally agreed to another baby if we waited until January to start trying. Well January came and we tried and our baby is due October 7. So far everything looks great. I see an ob/gyn and a perinatologist. We're thinking that we may not find out the sex of the baby, but with all the ultra-sounds I get, it may be too hard not to find out. That appointment is three weeks away. And of course we will pick out another L name; we don't want anyone to be left out. I feel pretty good and the kids are excited. More updates will be coming.

7 comments:

Tammy said...

Congratulations Carmen! That is exciting news. I know the Lord blesses us when we are doing what he wants of us. I hope things will go very smoothly for you. What a blessing children are.

The Hardy's said...

I am so excited for you! Isn't it interesting how you felt that there is another one? I can't believe you are already almost halfway there.

K. D. Montgomery said...

Carmen, that is so awesome. You obviously gave it a lot of thought and feel like you are doing the right thing. At least pregnancy doesn't last forever but the benefits do. Good luck from both Mike and I.

Rebecca and Co. said...

I think that your fourth baby will be as lucky as the first three to join your family!

Natalie said...

I should have read this before I saw you. I could have congratulated you in person. Ahhhh, now I see why you need a bigger house. I had several feelings that someone was missing, even when all my "current" childern were accounted for. I haven't had any of those, so I guess I'm done. Good luck!

Lori said...

Congratulations on the new addition! You will do fine. I think having 4 is not any harder than when I had 3. You'll be amazed at how your other kids will want to help. My Sophie gets so much attention because she has older siblings. Keep us posted on how everything is going.

Heidi said...

Congrats Carmen. That's so exciting! We really need to get together!